The Goal: A Happy Marriage Forever
Talk to someone who is about to get married and although
they think they have found that one true love the statistics
for a long and happy marriage are not in their favor. Today
51% of all first marriages end in divorce. A single person
looking for a mate will ask the question, “How many frogs
do I have to kiss before I find my Prince or Princess?” A
lot fewer if you use birth order in your search. Shakespeare
coined the phase, Love is Blind, and that is the way most
people search to find a mate, but if you understand birth
order you will enter all relationships knowing much more
they think they have found that one true love the statistics
for a long and happy marriage are not in their favor. Today
51% of all first marriages end in divorce. A single person
looking for a mate will ask the question, “How many frogs
do I have to kiss before I find my Prince or Princess?” A
lot fewer if you use birth order in your search. Shakespeare
coined the phase, Love is Blind, and that is the way most
people search to find a mate, but if you understand birth
order you will enter all relationships knowing much more
about the other person than just their name.
What is a Soul Mate?
How many times have you heard someone say they are
looking for their Soul Mate? Just what is a Soul Mate?
The classic meaning of Soul Mate came from Greek
mythology. The story is our ancestors had 2 heads
and 4 arms. They offended a god who punished them
by splitting them in half. This was the creation of humans.
Now we are condemned to spend the rest of our lives
looking for the other half, our Soul Mate. The more modern
looking for their Soul Mate? Just what is a Soul Mate?
The classic meaning of Soul Mate came from Greek
mythology. The story is our ancestors had 2 heads
and 4 arms. They offended a god who punished them
by splitting them in half. This was the creation of humans.
Now we are condemned to spend the rest of our lives
looking for the other half, our Soul Mate. The more modern
definition from the dictionary says “One of Two persons
compatible with each other in disposition, point of view,
or sensitivity”. Compared to the Greeks this is a much easier
goal to reach. Others view the term Soul Mate differently,
if you believe in reincarnation or personal karmic growth.
Twin Flames are two people that share the same soul, while
other Soul Mates are people that come into your life to clear
up karma or to finish unfinished business. Anyway you see
compatible with each other in disposition, point of view,
or sensitivity”. Compared to the Greeks this is a much easier
goal to reach. Others view the term Soul Mate differently,
if you believe in reincarnation or personal karmic growth.
Twin Flames are two people that share the same soul, while
other Soul Mates are people that come into your life to clear
up karma or to finish unfinished business. Anyway you see
it, Soul Mates are there for a reason, birth order may be the
tool to find yours.
tool to find yours.
Birth Orders and Love at First Sight
Type one
There appear to be two kinds of “Love at First Sight”. The first
is when you meet someone with you exact same birth order.
You are now seeing yourself in their reflection. It is another
YOU and you understand each other so well. The problem
is that there can only be one image in a mirror at a time so
someone must step out of the picture. Of course, you can
share and divide up the authority in the relationship. The
recent marriage of Prince William and Kate Middleton is just
this type of “Love at First Sight” as both are first borns. At
the wedding, or maybe before, Prince Harry and Pippa
Middleton made a similar connection as both are second
YOU and you understand each other so well. The problem
is that there can only be one image in a mirror at a time so
someone must step out of the picture. Of course, you can
share and divide up the authority in the relationship. The
recent marriage of Prince William and Kate Middleton is just
this type of “Love at First Sight” as both are first borns. At
the wedding, or maybe before, Prince Harry and Pippa
Middleton made a similar connection as both are second
borns
Type two
The second kind of “Love at First Sight” is when you meet
someone that matches exactly by number and gender one
of the siblings in your family. This works because you have
had at least 16 years to understand this other birth order.
Now when you see this birth order in another person the
unexpected is not there. A perfect example of this type of
love is George H.W. Bush and Barbara. Their first meeting
was at a college dance and at least one of them knew they
were meant for each other. George is a number two with a
younger sister, a number three. Barbara is a number three
with an older brother, a number two. Barbara loves telling
this story to her grandchildren just to get their reactions.
Is Age Important?
The age of your partner does not seem to have the influence
that you might think. This may be why the May-December
marriages, a term used to describe two people that are many
years apart in age, are successful. Charlie Chaplin and Oona
O’Neill were both Two/Only double birth orders. They were
36yrs apart in age but that didn't stop them from raising eight
children and staying together until Charlie died at age eighty-
eight. Actress Susan Sarandon is fourteen years older than
her companion, Tim Robbins. He is a fourth-born with a
sister in the number one position. Susan is a firstborn that
has many younger brothers one in the fourth position,
another match.
eight. Actress Susan Sarandon is fourteen years older than
her companion, Tim Robbins. He is a fourth-born with a
sister in the number one position. Susan is a firstborn that
has many younger brothers one in the fourth position,
another match.
Here are a few more examples of May December couples
Bing Crosby and Kathryn Grandstaff 30 years apart
John Derek and Bo (Mary Collins) 30 years apart
Rodney Dangerfield and Joan Child 31 years apart
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher 15 years apart
Can Only Children Find A Birth Order Match?
This birth order theory also works for Only children. This is
because Onlies come in many flavors. They are the merging
of the birth orders of their parents. The person with an Only
birth order will be attracted to a person that shares the same
birth order as one of their parents. They really have two options
one for each parent’s birth order.
Double Birth Orders and Partners
Matching double birth orders is really very tricky. Double
birth orders occur when there are 4 or more years of spacing
between siblings or groups of siblings. Find out more about
this in my book, Life’s Fingerprint. Prince Charles a firstborn
and Princess Di a Three/One birth order is the couple we all
saw in action and if you understood birth order would know
why this union was difficult. Princess Di was really two people,
as a number One she wanted to be in charge. As a sensitive
Third born she saw the suffering in the world and wanted to
help. We saw her two personalities throughout her life and it
made great press. With a double birth order you get two
personalities.
Changing Birth Orders with the Death of a Sibling
When a sibling dies that is older than you, everyone in the
family moves up in birth order. You still have your original
birth order but you are expected to act like your new birth
order. This is what happened to Arnold Schwarzenegger.
He began life as a second born with an older brother. When
his brother died in an auto accident Arnold
Only position. If we look at his life, he went from body
builder to student to actor to Governor of California
he just acting the part of an Only being in charge and making
his own rules? When he met Maria Shriver another second
born in 1977 at a charity tennis tournament, the “love a first
sight” may have been in play but in the 25 years of marriage
a different person may have emerged and the love died.
A Match for Everyone
There is a perfect match for everyone if you know your “True”
birth order and the birth order of your chosen one. Double birth
orders add another element to your partner, you get two for
the price of one, so don’t rely on just your number of birth. You
can see all the different birth order combinations and find your
magic number in my book, Life’s Fingerprint. Get it from my
website: www.mybirthorder.com and I will help you find your
birth order and maybe your Soul Mate.
