Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Birth Orders: Graduation & Career Paths

         


You have just graduated from college and Mom and Dad said it’s time for
you to get a job. When you came home you found that they had turned your room into a home office for Dad, you knew they were serious. Some of you
had part-time jobs but now it was time to get serious. This would be your last summer without any responsibilities but time is running short and you need a plan. Each birth order has a 
set of personality traits that fit their  “ideal” job but many don’t 
find it until later in life. The zigzag through many jobs. This 
information on your birth order should help you find a more 
direct path to that perfect position. We should also look at 
some of the things you did in college, many should not be 
discussed at the job interview.

The Only Child

Self-confident, not afraid of older people, may be spoiled, and 
not allowed to fail. These are some of the traits of the Only 
child. The world is theirs for the taking as they have been 
“little” adults all their lives. Only’s parents do not turn their 
rooms into an offices. Only’s can work with others but soon 
rise to the top. Working alone is also no problem for them. 
Books were their first friends so anything in this field interests 
them. They can also be interested in History, Art, and 
Publishing.  Starting a business is not out of the question. 
Their parents gave them a lot of self-esteem and confidence. 
When on an interview they may bring up information about the 
year they went to China to study and learn the language. Like 
Laura Bush, another Only, the library could be your new home.

The First Born

The Only child becomes a firstborn when another child enters 
the family. They want to please their parents, do well in school, 
like to be in charge and give orders. They are usually very 
responsible and are hard on themselves to be perfect. This 
birth order wants to be in-charge and many become CEOs. 
They will prepare for their interview and not fail to mention all 
they have accomplished, President of the student body, head 
of their sorority, and their success in enlarging the student 
parking lot. Any place where they can see themselves giving 
orders and helping others to “do the right thing” is perfect. 
School teachers are usually firstborns but so are the heads of 
most large corporations.

The Second Born

Don’t tell them what to do, very competitive, athletic, with an 
outgoing personality. These are some of the traits of the 
second born. In College they may have been on the 
basketball, swim team or the cheerleading squad.  They are 
the team player and the support person in anyone’s 
organization. Money, not power, is their overriding ambition, 
because when you have enough money no one tells you what 
to do. Their goal is to have autonomy over their life, which 
may mean, starting and running their own business.  Bill Gates 
and Warren Buffet did just that and no one tells them what to 
do. At the interview it might be prudent not to mention the 
time you and your friends handcuffed themselves to the library 
door to protest early closing times, you can be very stubborn.

The Third Born

Very sensitive, artistic, creative, intuitive, cares about the world 
and others.  These are some of the traits of the third born.  
Laughing on the outside but crying on the inside so no one 
sees their pain is typical of this birth order. Anything that 
seems to help humanity is of interest to these people.  
Working outdoors with nature, art, drama, nursing are all areas 
where they can excel. Money is not their goal and many are 
thought to be dreamers. Both Mother Teresa and Madonna 
carry this birth order. Depending on the job, you may want to 
tell them about the time when your Kodiak inflatable boat was 
rammed by a Whaling ship when you were volunteering to 
“Save the Whales.”

The Fourth Born

The true baby in the family, outspoken, comedian, loves to 
have fun. This person allows others to take care of them as 
this is what has happened all their lives. Planning for tomorrow 
is not a big concern but the next party or vacation is important. 
Working with large groups of people comes naturally as does 
speaking to their elders as this is what they have done all their 
lives.  They make ideal salespeople and hate a job behind a 
desk. It is all about personal interaction and having fun.  
Michael Jordan and Dolly Parton are both fourth borns and 
are still having fun.  At your interview it may not be the time 
to show off the tattoo you got after winning the tequila shot 
contest at spring break.

 Double Birth Orders

When four or more years separate a child from their older or
younger siblings on either side of them, they pick up an 
additional birth order, that of the Only child.  When you 
combine this with their birth order number you add strength 
to all the characteristics. This Only birth order amplifies, 
magnifies, and intensifies all the birth order traits.  Your job 
options are more varied but center around you. 
Understanding Double Birth Orders is the key to
understanding and unmasking everyone’s personality.

Your Future

What career path you take is of your own choosing. Match it to
your Birth Order and success is yours, you will love your
job.  Pick the wrong one and you will flounder for a while until
you match with the ideal position. Good Luck!

Website:  www.mybirthorder.com

Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst

Monday, April 15, 2013

Understanding Kim Jong-Un and his Double Birth Order


     



                                                   Kim Jong -Un


Unmasking Personalities
When you understand someone’s birth order you get
the opportunity to unmask their personality.  Every birth
order has both positive and negative qualities and this is
why different people with the same birth orders do not
always act the same. When people have double birth
orders they are very confusing. They demonstrate
characteristics from both birth orders in a random fashion. 
This makes unmasking their personality very difficult.

Prediction of New North Korean Leader
On March 1, 2011 I wrote a blog about Kim Jong –il
then the current leader of North Korea. I made a
prediction using the birth order of his children to
pick his successor.  I looked for the child that would
most match the father’s birth order, that of a #2. 
The answer was Kim Jong-Un a four/two double
birth order. He was declared supreme leader December
28th 2011 following the funeral of his father.

How do you get a Four/Two Double birth order?
In order to get this birth order you must have two
groups of children separated by at least 4years.  In
this case the separation was 10 years.  The first
two children were born in
1971  #1 Kim Jong-Nam
1974 #2  Kim Sol-song
     10yr gap
 1981 #3/1  Kim-Jong-chul  (Third birth but oldest in 2nd family)
 1983 #4/2  Kim Jong-Un
      4yr gap

 1987 #5/0  Kim  Yo-jong

Kim Jong-Un number 2 and 4 personalities traits
The second child does not want to be told what to do.
The more you tell them the more stubborn they get even
though they know they are wrong. The battle with their
older sibling is their first taste of conflict and it looks
like Kim Jong-Un dethroned his older brother. In school
it has been said Kim was a competitive basketball player
and did not like to lose.

The fourth born is the true baby in the family.  Playing
games and letting other take care of the details is this
birth order’s traits. They also don’t want to grow up and
if it is not fun they don’t want to do it.  It is said Kim
is obsessed with basketball and computer games, likes
to drink and party. All this fits his birth orders.

Difficulty with World Leaders
Why are the world’s leaders so in the dark about Kim?
It is that most of them were elected not part of a family
dynasty. Most leaders are firstborns, like to give orders
and don’t really understand their younger siblings. They
feel the world revolves around them. Kim confuses them
with his #2 and #4 birth order traits ,something with
which they have little experience. Younger siblings
always know how to aggravate their older siblings.

Will Kim Jong –Un send up a Missile or Bomb?
No one knows if he plans to lead his country into
National suicide but this author says it is likely.
His number 4 birth order is no match for his aggressive
#2 traits as #4 sees this all as a game and #2 won’t give
in to outside pressure.

Update 8-14-17 
Kim Jong-Un has met his match with Donald Trump,
both have double birth orders. Kim a 4/2 Trump a
4/1.  Trump will be more measured but Kim will not
back down to pressure. Don't tell a number 2 what to
do. I expect a missile launch tomorrow but it could
be cancelled if Kim feels he gained somethimg from
his show of force.  Trump won't fire the first shot.


For more information about Birth Orders visit my
website; www.mybirthorder.com  or better yet
purchase my book Life’s Fingerprint How Birth Order
Affects Your Path Throughout Life. By
Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst


Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Your Birth Order: How will You Spend Your Tax Refund?





          For those lucky people that are about to get their tax
refunds, did you know that your birth order influences
how you see money and use it? Many couples have
different ideas about money and some feel this issue
can lead to difficulties in a marriage. Your birth order
can explain your behavior.

Basic Birth Orders
The basic birth orders are the Only without siblings,
the firstborn, second born, third born and fourth born. 
After number four the series starts over again. Each
birth order has their own view about money and how
it should be used. This does not mean that you have
no choice in the matter as each birth order has both
positive and negative behavior patterns, see which
is yours.

The Only
This person mimics his parents and is the only birth
order without siblings.  If he was indulged by his
parents and given anything he wanted then a person
with this birth order may buy jewelry clothes or art
work. Anything for himself, as this type of Only
would not want to share. The positive Only would
be buying books, his first friend, or maybe theater
tickets for himself and a companion to share in his
windfall.

Firstborn
The firstborn can be very frugal with money and save
it for their retirement or save it for their grandchildren.
Money can be used as power over others so by giving
gifts they feel more powerful. They feel the burden of
leading the family and want to be an example for the
younger siblings.  The other type of firstborn would
want to flaunt their power and may use the money to
throw a lavish party in their home to show others how
successful and powerful they have become.

Second Born
The second born uses money to protect themselves
from not being told what to do. Some of the most
successful people are second borns like Bill Gates
and Warren Buffett.  If positive, they will invest this
tax refund to further grow their nest egg.  If negative,
they may go on an adventure trip where they would
use their athletic skills or go to an exotic location very
much off the beaten track.

Third Born
This birth order doesn’t care about power or money
they see the human condition  and the beauty of nature. 
Their senses are very developed and they want to
understand and “Feel” life at every level. On a positive
note they may give their refund to the church, make a
donation to a worthy cause, or help a poor street person.
If negative they may throw a party where drugs and
alcohol are in abundance, or go to a rock concert.

Fourth Born
This is the baby in the birth order series and they may
want to seek advice from an older sibling as to what to
do with the money. They would tell them to save it for
the future as the older sibling will not always be there
to help them. Of course, they may not listen and just
want to have a good time with their friends. A party
barge would be a great place for a good time.

The Choice is Yours
Every birth order has a special way to look at money. 
They have a choice that is positive or negative and that
is why even the same birth order appear different.  Which
behavior will be yours and will you have a conflict with
your spouse if a Tax refund appears?

For more information on Your Birth Order contact
Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst through the website
www.mybirthorder.com  or buy his book
Life’s Fingerprint: How Birth Order Affect Your Path
Throughout Life. 

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Birth Order will help you find Your Perfect Match






Are you tired of finding Mr. Right turn into Mr. Wrong? 
Spending too many Valentines days eating  Haagen Dazs 
ice cream by yourself? The answer to finding your “love 
at first sight” is birth order.

Valentines day brings up the question, “Why do I love 
you?”  Your birth orders may have the answer to this 
question and explain the attraction you have for each 
other.

If you meet someone with your same birth order but the 
opposite gender, you have found one type of ”love at 
first sight”. This relationship starts off with a bang as you 
have met yourself!  It’s like you are looking into a mirror 
because you are so similar.  The problem is that a mirror 
can only show one image at a time, if this relationship is to 
work one person must step away from the mirror.

An easier more lasting “love at first sight” is when you 
meet someone that is the same birth order as one of your 
siblings. For a traditional relationship they would be your 
opposite gender. If you are the third born girl with two older 
brothers, a first or second born boy that had a third born 
sister would be your perfect match.

Why does this work?  It works because you understand 
both the birth orders and genders of these two boys.  The 
relationship won’t start out with the same intensity as if you 
met someone with your same birth order. This type will feel 
as comfortable as a well broken in shoe.  This relationship 
only gets better with time.  I have yet to see this type of 
match end in failure.  So check out your perfect match using 
birth order and Happy Valentines day.

To learn more about Birth Order visit 
www.mybirthorder.com or on facebook www.facebook.com/lifesfingerprintyourbirthorder  
and learn more from Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst

Monday, January 21, 2013

Ann Landers and Dear Abby: Twins with Double Birth Orders

Esther Lederer - Ann Landers

                                      
Pauline Phillips - Abigail Van Buren

This is the life of two twin sisters who both pursued the same 
path, that of advice columnists.   Although twins there were 
differences.  With every set of twins,  one assumes the higher 
birth order.  In their case it was Esther, known as Eppie, that 
was 17 minutes older.

Family Birth Order Diagram
This is the family diagram and their birth orders.

Helen                                           1911             #1
Dorothy                                       1913             #2

            5 year space

Esther (Eppie) Pauline              1918          #3/1
           17 minutes
Pauline (Popo) Esther              1918          #3/2


Third Borns
Both girls were the third birth so they share Third born
characteristics.  These include the ability to understand
people and size up situations involving people with almost
a psychic ability.  They tend to be intuitive and care most about
the human condition, but can also be artistic and theatrical.
Emotionally they show a happy face to the world but can cover
up their more sensitive side privately.

First Borns
Esther (Ann Landers) carries the first born characteristics with
her third born birth order. The firstborn wants to keep the
throne and will try to be the first and best in everything they
do.  They like to wield power over others and at times can be
caustic in their attempt to get their point across. Failure is not
an option so life can be difficult trying to please others and be
perfect. They feel they have the “right” answers.

Second Borns
Pauline (Dear Abby) carries the Second born characteristics with
her Third born birth order.  The Second born does not like to be
told what to do.  They are not as driven as the Firstborn but know
their weak spots and love to point out to them they are not
perfect. They are more light hearted and social as they don’t take
things as personally.


Sibling Disaffection
With the twins having Double birth orders they switch between
the same birth order #3, and their other birth orders a #1 and #2.
When they are both acting like 3’s they are full of love for each
other. When they are acting like #1’s and #2’s they are rival siblings. 
Sibling rivalry is usually strongest between the first and second
children.  In their case they were the first and second children in
the second family. The five year gap between the twins and their
older siblings created the Double birth order.  During their early
life they were inseparable, both primarily showing the number
3 birth order characteristics. They wrote an advice column in
college and even had a double wedding ceremony.

Their Marriages
Esther dumped her fiancé and two weeks later married the
 millinery salesman who she met while shopping for her veil.
Her marriage to Jules Lederer founder of Budget Rent -A -Car
lasted 36 years but ended in divorce. He admitted having an
affair. Pauline told Esther it was her fault which didn’t help
the sister relationship. This would have been typical for a
number Two to aggravate the older sibling.

Pauline married Morton Phillips heir to the family liquor
business. Esther felt betrayed when Pauline created her own
advice column just  months  after she continued the Ann
Landers column.  They would fuel the competitive drive
the rest of their lives.
  
Their Different Styles
Pauline’s column answers  were more friendly then Esther’s,
who was more abrupt. She resented Pauline’s financial
success although both sisters were very successful. Pauline
seemed to have a more personal attachment to her readers.

Twins with Double Birth Orders
Here was an interesting example of Twins that ended up with
double birth orders.  The combination of birth orders, a
double birth order, creates a more complicated person.  These
two women though alike in many ways, exemplify the extreme
differences birth orders can create.

Let me hear from you if you have any twins in your family?

For more information about Double Birth Orders my book,
Lifes Fingerprint: How Birth Order Affects Your Path Throughout
Life;  offers a detailed examination of the dynamics of birth order,
available as hard copy or e-book.  For more information, plus
videos and blogs, visit my web site  www.mybirthorder.com  
by Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst

Thursday, January 17, 2013

The Double Birth Order of Senator Harry Reid




The Double Birth Order of Senator Harry Reid

Senator Harry Reid is the Majority Leader in the U.S. Senate and its Speaker. As a Democrat from
Nevada, he is the first to hold such a powerful position. As Speaker he has been center stage in the news for
the past four years in a divided Congress. No legislation can be delivered to the President unless both Houses of Congress pass it. Harry has been the obstacle for the bills that came from the Republican majority in the House.  Is he faithfully doing the Presidents business or does he truly believe in the liberal agenda for which he stands?  Why is Harry such a thorn in the side of Speaker Boehner? Understanding his birth order will unmask the true Harry Reid and give us the answer.

Harry has a 3/1 Double Birth Order
Harry was the third of four boys.  His mother came into
the marriage with two boys, their father was Aldro
Toleman Garner from Utah. The family diagram
 will show you how he got his Double birth order.

Don  Reid (Garner) ½ brother       1928    1
Dale  Reid (Garner) ½ brother      1930    2
                    9yrs
Harry  Reid (Named after father   1939   3/1
Larry   Reid                                    1940   4/2

Because of the 9 year gap between the brothers Harry
became the oldest in the second family. This gives him
characteristics of both a Firstborn and a Third born two
very different birth orders.

Balancing Two Birth Orders
For someone to understand their own single birth
order is hard enough but with two it can be very
confusing. All birth orders have both positive and
negative expressions that the person must understand.
When you have two birth orders it gives you four
different choices. The farther apart the birth order
numbers, the more conflicting the personality
characteristics.

Firstborns #1
Harry’s Firstborn birth order gives him the need to be
in charge. He will want to control the people around
him. The number One can be a no nonsence demanding
person even very physical in their use of power.  In
Harry’s case it can be the result of trying to hold on to the
number One position.  Harry had a younger brother Larry
and this may be where he may have used his pugilistic
talents. The other side of the number One is a person
that can also be very supportive and helpful. This is just
another way to control through kindness and self sacrifice.
Firstborns are the CEO’s of birth order, they feel they
have the right answers.

Third Borns #3
The Third birth order sees life very differently from the
Firstborn.  Many Third borns are not well grounded in
reality and can become dreamers. They see the
artistic side of things and see the bigger picture of
humanity in all its forms. They are very sensitive and
can come and go emotionally. They have a unique
ability to understand people intuitively. Harry can  
relate to poverty and the plight of the poor for that
was his start in life.  Religion is another interest of
many Third borns. Harry has said he started life without
religion but has found the Mormon Church to be very
important in his life. Third borns can be both soft
spoken or very loud and aggressive.  Both characteristics
is their way of hiding their sensitive nature. They will
do their best not to show they have been hurt by putting
up a hard shell as protection.

Searchlight Nevada- Harry’s Home town
Harry was born December 2, 1939 the third of four
boys. If there is such a thing as “dirt” poor that was
his the family. His father was a hard rock miner with just
an eighth grade education and his mother never finished
high school. He witnessed the abuse of his mother when
his father became drunk but after he turned 14 he was
big enough with the help of his younger brother Larry
to confront him. His father committed suicide at age
58 after a long bout of depression. The cabin he grew
up in had no indoor plumbing and his school had one
teacher for all eight grades. Prostitution was the leading
industry in the town and here is where his mother
worked as a washer woman to add to the family income.
Harry learned to swim at a whorehouse which had the only
swimming pool in town.  Every Thursday the manager
would let a dozen children at a time, swim in the pool.

High School Education
Harry had to leave Searchlight and go to Henderson
Nevada for his high school education. He would board
with families in town as would other children from towns
without high schools.  In high school be played baseball,
football and became an amateur boxer. He was trained
by Mike O’Callaghan, a teacher and Korean War hero
who lost a leg in the war. Later MIke would become
Governor of Nevada. He noticed that Harry had more
than a little chip on his shoulder and although he was
only 10 years older became a father figure to Harry.
This is also where he met his wife Landra Gould. They
married two years after high school but not before Harry
had a fist fight with her father as he was against the
marriage, the family was Jewish. They eloped and were
married in a Mormon Chapel.

His Career takes off like a Rocket
It was through the help of some local businessmen
that he attended college and law school. After law 
school he returned to Henderson and became city 
attorney.  Elected to the Nevada State Assembly in 
1968 at age 28, he became the youngest Lieutenant 
Governor in Nevada when he was 30 years old. He 
was working with the Governor who was his teacher 
and boxing coach in High school. It was the Governor 
that appointed him Chairman of the Nevada Gaming 
Commission in 1977, a very powerful position where 
he witnessed the power of money. He also saw how 
he could exercise the power of government over 
these same people.  He is credited with taking on the 
mob. He did this without ever going into a casino, 
taking a drink or getting killed. His only time out of 
public service were the two years he spent in
the practice of law. He was known as a consumer
advocate and the lawyer of last resort. He defended
people down on their luck with no money to pay him.
He was elected to the United States House of
Representatives in 1982. Then elected to the Senate
and that is where he is today. . He has said the
Mormon Church has been a very strong influence in his
life. (A three characteristic) As a Mormon he has achieved
the highest government position of any Mormon to ever
hold office.

Becoming Speaker
How does this soft spoken seemingly shy man get
100% of his colleges to elect him Speaker. (Third
born traits) It’s his Double birth order characteristics
that help him. He is known as intensely loyal and
trustworthy. He attends to his colleague’s needs.
(The supportive #1)He is always getting requests.
He is very unassuming but is assessing a person’s
vulnerabilities in order to have the upper hand. By
staying quiet he allows a person to express
themselves and he then figures them out, sometimes
just by observation. (The number Three skill)

Harry’s Personality Juggling Act
We can now see his actions as they relate to his
multiple birth orders. Sensitive and caring on one
hand (A 3) and ready to push through the agenda of the
President at any cost. (A 1) He says he was raised to
settle your differences physically, “I am fighting that
all the time.(A 1) I don’t want to be mean to people.”(A 3)
His personalities are his unique traits that give him the
upper hand in negotiations. He doesn’t ignore slights
he says, “I believe in vengeance” and payback has
been a factor in his career. (A 1)  He may have resented
those with money but he can use his political power
to “get even”.(A 1) At  times he loses control and that is
when he says things that seem so uncharacteristic
of a person in such a  responsible  position. (A 3) John
Boehner, his counterpart as Speaker of the House
of Representative is a number Two birth order. A
number Two birth order says, “don’t tell me what to
do”, and that is why they will never get along.

Tell me what you think. This should make for a
good discussion.

You can find out more information about Double Birth
orders at www.mybirthorder.com or buy my book:
Life’s Fingerprint: How Birth Order Affects Your
Path Throughout Life. by Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst