Charlie Sheen A Third Born out of Control?

                            

Charlie Sheen, actor and star of the TV show Two and a Half Men, 

has been in the news.  His life and lifestyle are being exposed to

public scrutiny so it is time to unmask his birth order. His birth order

will let us see what makes Charlie so likable while at the same time

he appears unbalanced and self destructive.

·        Family and Siblings

Charlie’s parents Martin and Janet Sheen changed their name from

Estevez before Charlie was born to make it less ethnic and help

Martin’s acting career. Their firstborn was Emilo, May 12, 1962. 

Next, Ramon August 7, 1963, Charlie September 3, 1965 and 

last and the only girl, Renee April 2, 1967. Charlie was born Carlos 

Irvin Estevez and the only child to use Sheen as his last name.  This 

should have been the signal that life was going to be different with 

Charlie.

·        Characteristics of the Third Born

                     When the third child is born he has to understand 14 different 

                     relationships in the family. Those between all his siblings, parents 

                     and himself in different combinations.  This is what makes the

                     third born such a master at understanding and working with

                     groups of people.  They can be the most sensitive and intuitive

                     people as they pick up on the subtleties of those around them.

                     Understanding others makes them likable as they truly feel you      

                     pain. They are masters of playing one sibling against the other and

                     are good at coming and going emotionally. They see the world very

                     differently than the first- and second borns. Power over others or

                     the control of their own space in not as important as their need to

                     express themselves in humanitarian or artistic ways. In life, this birth

                     order has more freedom to experience the non-traditional aspects 

                     of society on a more personal level. Drugs, sex, and alcohol

                     immediately come to mind. Because of the third born’s extreme

                     sensitivity they can project a tough outer appearance but this is 

                     only a sham to protective their sensitive side.   

·        Third Born with Two Older Brothers

                    All third borns share a number of similar characteristics but they

                    display them differently. The gender of the two older siblings has

                    a great deal of influence on the behavior of the third born. In

                    Charlie’s family it has been said that he had an adversarial 

                    relationship with his two older brothers, Emilo and Ramon. 

                    There can be a lot of testosterone with three boys.This is the 

                    clue that he was trying to move up the birth order ladder.The 

                    child with the lower birth order always wants to move up but 

                    usually the third born doesn’t have a chance because the age gap

                    is too large. Most third borns just ignore their older siblings and

                    go in a different direction rather than compete.  Not so with Charlie.

·        The Move Up - Sibling Rivalry

                    What would give Charlie as a child the thought that he could 

                    challenge his siblings and try to move up in birth order. We don’t

                    know what happened in the home during this period of his life but

                    a few clues can lead us in this investigation. As an adult Charlie is

                    taller than his two older brothers. Charlie is 5’10”, Emilo the 

                    oldest is 5’6”, and the second brother Ramon is 5’7”.  If Charlie

                    grew early this would have been a factor in the challenge for the

                    higher position.  It should also be noted that the second brother

                    Ramon was named after his father.  This is very unusual as the

                    first born usually gets his father’s name.  Perhaps his older brother

                    Emilo felt a little less secure after Ramon was born.  This was 

                    another opening for Charlie. 

·        Like Father Like Son

                    Martin Sheen, Charlie’s father was born Ramon Estevez the seventh 

                    of ten children.  This makes his birth order a second level number

                    three (Birthorder numbers start again after number four) very similar

                    to Charlie. Martin wanted to be an actor so badly that it is said he

                    purposely failed his entrance exam to college so he could start his

                    acting career. We see a similar pattern with Charlie who was not

                    much of a student in high school, his interests were acting and 

                    baseball. Charlie got his first acting role at age nine with a part in his

                    father’s movie, The Execution of Private Slovik. He was the star

                    shortstop and pitcher on his high school team but a few weeks
                    before graduation he was expelled due to poor attendance and
                    bad grades.This was also the first time there is a mention of the
                    influence of drugs in his life. He has since gone through rehab for
                    this problem.

·        What the Future may Hold

                    What will be the future for this likable third born.  Will he enter rehab

                    again and kick his drug habit?  Is a stable marriage in his future? 

                    Third borns are very protective of their sensitive nature so when the

                    tough façade is lost a tidal wave of emotion and a meltdown can 

                    occur. As with all birth orders you have a choice to use your special 

                    characteristics for a positive life or go in a negative direction.  Only

                    Charlie can determine his future.

                   

                    

                    To learn more about Birth Order get my book  Life's Fingerprint:
                    How Birth Order Affects Your Path Throughout Life  by Dr. Robert
                    V. V. Hurst or visit our website  www.mybirthorder.com