Birth order
affects all aspects of your life. It starts
with the very beginning of life…..Birth
In today’s
society you can plan your births or adoptions
and in so doing structure your family in a variety of
ways. The birth number and spacing between siblings
will affect their personalities. Using Birth Order can let
you know what the future holds before you add a birth
to your family or adopt a child.
The First Born
The first
child starts life as an Only child. As
parents,
the two of you can hover over this child and address his
every need. He can become very adult like or very
spoiled as he or she gets anything and everything they
want. We see them in the characters they played as
the children in Willy Wonka and he Chocolate Factory.
Charlie was adult like, the others spoiled. This child
loses his exalted status with the addition of the next
child; sometimes a very difficult transition.
Spacing the Second Sibling
Your next
decision in adding to your family is to decide
on the spacing of the Second sibling. If you wait less
than 4 years you will be building a family of interacting
children. Each successive sibling interacts with the
others for a group of children each playing their own
birth order role within the family.
The Interactive Family
With less
than 4 years between births you get an
interactive family. You have the bossy #1 telling the
others what to do. The number 2 that doesn't want to
be told what to do. The number 3 that stirs the pot
but stays outside the sibling rivalry of the first two,
and number 4, the baby that everyone ignores so
has to be loud just to be noticed. Each child can
help the younger one through the process of toilet
training an d school. Everyone has their role to play
in the family.
Spacing 4 or more years
You do have
a second choice. Space your children
four or more years apart. Because of this spacing,
you add the Only birth order to these children. This
happens because this child spends time at home
alone with a parent while the older sibling is at school.
You might have decided to do this so you could focus
your attention on each child and not be overwhelmed
during those developmental years...one through four..
that take so much hands on attention.
The Affect of a Double Birth Order
For those
that space their children 4 or more years
apart, they
add the Only birth order to each of their
birth numbers. This gives these children 10 times
the power of a single birth order child. You end up
with individual families of one child each. They do
not interact like the closely spaced family but each
child does have a birth order that the Only birth
order amplifies, magnifies, and intensifies his birth
order characteristics.
Examples of these Double birth orders
are
1/0 Sylvester Stallone, Oprah, Barack Obama
Bill Clinton
2/0 David Letterman, Ellen DeGeneres,
Britney Spears
3/0 Suzanne
Somers, Alfred Hitchcock, Dr. Phil
4/0 Jodie
Foster, Don Knotts, Billy Carter
Mitt Romney
Whichever
plan you chose you can now know what
to expect with
multiple children in your family.
Like your
Fingerprint: Your birth order is who
you really are.
For more information
on Birth Orders and Double
The book
Life’s Fingerprint: How Birth Order
Affects
Your Path Throughout Life
by Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst
