Charlie Sheen A Third Born out of Control?

                            

Charlie Sheen, actor and star of the TV show Two and a Half Men, 

has been in the news.  His life and lifestyle are being exposed to

public scrutiny so it is time to unmask his birth order. His birth order

will let us see what makes Charlie so likable while at the same time

he appears unbalanced and self destructive.

·        Family and Siblings

Charlie’s parents Martin and Janet Sheen changed their name from

Estevez before Charlie was born to make it less ethnic and help

Martin’s acting career. Their firstborn was Emilo, May 12, 1962. 

Next, Ramon August 7, 1963, Charlie September 3, 1965 and 

last and the only girl, Renee April 2, 1967. Charlie was born Carlos 

Irvin Estevez and the only child to use Sheen as his last name.  This 

should have been the signal that life was going to be different with 

Charlie.

·        Characteristics of the Third Born

                     When the third child is born he has to understand 14 different 

                     relationships in the family. Those between all his siblings, parents 

                     and himself in different combinations.  This is what makes the

                     third born such a master at understanding and working with

                     groups of people.  They can be the most sensitive and intuitive

                     people as they pick up on the subtleties of those around them.

                     Understanding others makes them likable as they truly feel you      

                     pain. They are masters of playing one sibling against the other and

                     are good at coming and going emotionally. They see the world very

                     differently than the first- and second borns. Power over others or

                     the control of their own space in not as important as their need to

                     express themselves in humanitarian or artistic ways. In life, this birth

                     order has more freedom to experience the non-traditional aspects 

                     of society on a more personal level. Drugs, sex, and alcohol

                     immediately come to mind. Because of the third born’s extreme

                     sensitivity they can project a tough outer appearance but this is 

                     only a sham to protective their sensitive side.   

·        Third Born with Two Older Brothers

                    All third borns share a number of similar characteristics but they

                    display them differently. The gender of the two older siblings has

                    a great deal of influence on the behavior of the third born. In

                    Charlie’s family it has been said that he had an adversarial 

                    relationship with his two older brothers, Emilo and Ramon. 

                    There can be a lot of testosterone with three boys.This is the 

                    clue that he was trying to move up the birth order ladder.The 

                    child with the lower birth order always wants to move up but 

                    usually the third born doesn’t have a chance because the age gap

                    is too large. Most third borns just ignore their older siblings and

                    go in a different direction rather than compete.  Not so with Charlie.

·        The Move Up - Sibling Rivalry

                    What would give Charlie as a child the thought that he could 

                    challenge his siblings and try to move up in birth order. We don’t

                    know what happened in the home during this period of his life but

                    a few clues can lead us in this investigation. As an adult Charlie is

                    taller than his two older brothers. Charlie is 5’10”, Emilo the 

                    oldest is 5’6”, and the second brother Ramon is 5’7”.  If Charlie

                    grew early this would have been a factor in the challenge for the

                    higher position.  It should also be noted that the second brother

                    Ramon was named after his father.  This is very unusual as the

                    first born usually gets his father’s name.  Perhaps his older brother

                    Emilo felt a little less secure after Ramon was born.  This was 

                    another opening for Charlie. 

·        Like Father Like Son

                    Martin Sheen, Charlie’s father was born Ramon Estevez the seventh 

                    of ten children.  This makes his birth order a second level number

                    three (Birthorder numbers start again after number four) very similar

                    to Charlie. Martin wanted to be an actor so badly that it is said he

                    purposely failed his entrance exam to college so he could start his

                    acting career. We see a similar pattern with Charlie who was not

                    much of a student in high school, his interests were acting and 

                    baseball. Charlie got his first acting role at age nine with a part in his

                    father’s movie, The Execution of Private Slovik. He was the star

                    shortstop and pitcher on his high school team but a few weeks
                    before graduation he was expelled due to poor attendance and
                    bad grades.This was also the first time there is a mention of the
                    influence of drugs in his life. He has since gone through rehab for
                    this problem.

·        What the Future may Hold

                    What will be the future for this likable third born.  Will he enter rehab

                    again and kick his drug habit?  Is a stable marriage in his future? 

                    Third borns are very protective of their sensitive nature so when the

                    tough façade is lost a tidal wave of emotion and a meltdown can 

                    occur. As with all birth orders you have a choice to use your special 

                    characteristics for a positive life or go in a negative direction.  Only

                    Charlie can determine his future.

                   

                    

                    To learn more about Birth Order get my book  Life's Fingerprint:
                    How Birth Order Affects Your Path Throughout Life  by Dr. Robert
                    V. V. Hurst or visit our website  www.mybirthorder.com

                 

       

Kim Jong –iL What Can Happen When a #2 is Elevated to #1

K                                            Kim Jong -iL

Kim Jong –il has been the dictatorial leader of North Korea

since 1994 after the death of his father Kim Il –sung.  His

relationship with the West has been strained at best. His 

country’s economy is in shambles and he has been putting 

his resources into nuclear weapon research and seems to

defy all attempts to get him to fall into line. Could his birth 

order have something to do with his personality?

Korean Names And Culture

Before we look at Kim Jong –il it might be best to take a

brief look at the system used for Korean names. A Korean 

name consists of a family name followed by a given name. 

There are only 250 Korean family names currently in use. 

The most common are Kim, Lee, and Park. There is also a

generational name syllable shared by all siblings and all 

members of the same generation.  Married men and women 

usually keep their full personal names, and children inherit 

the father’s family name. A name can also denote their clan 

and city of origin.

Korean Names And Gender

Korean history has a strong foundation of Confucian 

Principles acquired during the Choson Dynasty, 1392.

The family structure is patriarchal with the male being superior.

Women are not seen as ambitious and have no aspirations. 

They are referred to as ansalam or “inside person” strictly 

restricted to domesticity. It is common for the wife to keep 

her family name after marriage but the children must take their 

father’s name.

Kim Elevated to #1 Birth Order

Kim Jong –il was elevated to the number one birth order

moving above his older sister by virtue of his gender.  

The Korean culture puts the emphasis on males so with little 

effort he moved up to number one.  When this happens many

of the second born traits are still in effect.  The feeling that he

doesn’t want to be told what to do is a second born trait. 

He had to learn to lead and give orders as an elevated first
born but it is not a natural instinct. His erratic behavior may 
just be the two birth orders working, this confuses his
observers in the West.

Early Years

Kim is the eldest son of his father Kim Il-sung.  His official

biography says he was born February 16, 1942 in a log cabin

on Korea’s Mount Paektu.  Others believe he was born in
Russia on February 16, 1941. His older sister is Kim Kyong
–jin date of birth unknown.  Kim Jong –il’s move up may
have been easy but he still instinctively showed the need to 
protect his position from all possible challenges.  His 
younger brother Kim Shura Man –il was two years younger
when both were in the family swimming pool.  It is said that
older brother Kim Jong –il age 6 held his four year old
brother under the water just to watch the bubbles come up. 
This drowning accident took place place in 1947.

Brothers Sisters and Mothers

Kim’s birth mother, Jhong-suk the mother of his older sister

and younger brother died in 1949. His half brother and half 
sister Kim Pyong –il and Kim Kyong Hui were born after 
1951 to his step mother Kim Song –ae.  There was intense
sibling rivalry between Kim Jong –il and his younger half 
brother who was at least nine years younger. The conflict
between them got so bad that when Kim Pyong –il got older
he was sent to a distant embassy to keep them apart.

                                                                    Mother

#1 Kin Kyong – jin         oldest sister           Jhong -suk

#2 Kim Jong –il          2-16-42  or 41           Jhong –suk

#3 Kim “Shura” Man –il   1943 or 44           Jhoug -suk

#4/1 Kim Pyong –il          1951  ½ brother   Kim Song –ae

#5/2  Kim Kyong Hui          ?     ½ sister      Kim Song –ae

Kim’s Children and Their Mothers

Kim has been married only once to Kim Young –suk with
whom he had a daughter, Kim Sul –song in 1974.  He has 
had a series of mistresses and children. The following list
should help in understanding his family.

                                                            Mother/Wife/Mistress

#1 Kim Jong Nam   1971   son            Song Hae-Rim mistress

#2 Kim Sul –Song  1974  daughter      Kim Young –Suk wife

          10yrs later

#3/1 Kim Jong –chul 1981  son         Ko Young –hee mistress

#4/2 Kim Jong –un    1983  son         Ko Young –hee mistress

         No Children                             Kim Ok   mistress

Who will be the Successor to Kim?

If birth order is any indicator then the successor would be
Kim Jong –un who has a double birth order of #4/2  He is
the only one that shares his fathers birth order of a second
born even through he also carries the 4^th birth order as well. 
His oldest son Kim Jong Nam was arrested in 2001 on a 
forged passport and is now out of favor with his father. 
Kim Jong –il’s older sister is married to Chang Sung –taek 
who may challenge Kim Jong –un for the leadership role in 
North Korea.

Nuclear Weapons

In 1994 and again in 2000 North Korea entered into 
agreements with the United States to freeze and dismantle 
its nuclear weapons program in exchange for aid in helping 
Korea get nuclear generators.  In 2002 Kim Jong –il admitted 
to having produced nuclear weapons since 1994 but said
they did so for security purposes.  On October 6, 2006 they
conducted their first underground nuclear test.

North Korean Army

North Korea has the largest military relative to the size of the
country in the world. It has the fourth largest standing army 
and with this power Kim has done little or nothing to relax his
control on all aspects of the economy.

Crazy or is it His two Birth Orders?

Psychological evaluations conclude that Kim Jong –il is
fearless in the face of sanctions and punishment.  All these 
are second born traits.  This makes negotiations with him
extraordinarily difficult.  Because of the cultural gender 
biases’ working with three different female US Secretary’s
of State has been exasperating. His birth order won’t 

let you get a good look inside his country or his life. Trying
to act like a number one birth order but behaving like a
second born only adds to the confusion.

To learn more about Double Birth Order read my book
Life's Fingerprint: How Birth Order Affects Your Path
Throughout Life  by Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst of visit my
website www.mybirthorder.com

Jon Stewart – The Second Born with Attitude

 

 John Stewart

American political satirist, television host, and stand up comedian. Known for

The Daily Show that puts a satirical slant to news stories

Early Years

Born November 28^th 1962, Jon is the younger brother of Lawrence Leibowitz.

Both Jon and Lawrence reach the same age during each year so they may be

no more than one year apart. With two different names are they step-brothers

from two marriages? The answer is Jon changed his name from Jonathan

Stewart Leibowitz to Jon Stewart in 2001. His parents divorced when he

was eleven years old and he and his brother were raised by his mother. He

 has no contact with his father, another possible reason for the name change.

The second born does not forgive easily.

Don’t Compare Me to My Brother

Larry, his older brother, is presently Chief Operating Officer and member

of the Management Committee, New York Stock Exchange Euronext, Inc.

In fiscal year 2009 Larry’s compensation was $1,675,000. As a first born

being part of the establishment and following the rules is usually the case.

A position of power to give orders to others and not money is their personality

trait. A conservative view of life is in keeping with this birth order.

Jon, the younger brother, earned 14 million dollars in 2008.  As a second born

he would use money for the freedom it brings having no one tell him what to do.

Money gives the second born independence, he does not use it for  power

over others. The second born can take a different path than the first born

and Jon’s liberal views show clearly on his show.

In college Stewart majored in psychology and played on the soccer team.

This is the athletic side of the second born.  He has had surgery to repair both

a hernia and knee injury attributed to college soccer.   The second born

can be the bull dog in spirit, they never give up.

Work History

Jon had a series of part-time jobs which included, busboy, puppeteer, bartender

and shelf stocker at Woolworths. He was fired at Woolworths after diving into

a beanbag chair that crashed into a group of aquariums causing $10,000 damage.

Worse yet, it was his older brother that fired him! He got his first television job as a writer for Caroline’s Comedy Hour. Several other comedy shows followed with some co-hosting roles.  When David Letterman left NBC in 1993 Jon was in the running to replace him.  It came down to Stewart and Conan O’Brian, Stewart lost.

Birth Orders of Talk Show Hosts

The book, Life’s Fingerprint, a study of birth orders and how they affect your path throughout life shows that NBC got it wrong.  There have been a number of talk show

hosts with the number Two or the Double birth order of a Two/Only. David Letterman a

Two/Only, (five years between David and his sister). Jay Leno an Only/Two, (Ten years between Jay and his older brother) and Howard Stern a Two/Only, (Four years between himself and his older sister). We cannot forget Johnny Carson, the most successful talk show host of all time was a second born. Conan O’Brian is a third born with a very different personality and we now know how that worked out.  In 2002 ABC offered Stewart his own talk show to air after Nightline.  He was very interested but ABC gave the show to Jimmy Kimmel, a firstborn. The saying, “Always the Bridesmaid never the Bride” seems to fit for Jon Stewart.

Don’t tell Me What to Do

In college he was briefly a member of a fraternity but left in part because he did not agree with the hazing.  Second borns don’t like to be told what to do..

In 2005 he appeared on the CNN show Crossfire with the host Tucker Carlson.

The interview did not go well but Stewart would not give ground as he accused the hosts of being “partisan hacks”. He said the show failed to inform and educate its viewers. Second borns will stick to their position.  In 2005 CNN announced that it was canceling Crossfire.

Who is Your Friend?

People with the same birth order have an uncanny way of finding each other.  If you look closely at your friends you will find many times they share your birth order.  This was true for Jon while he was going through a series of jobs; he shared an apartment with Anthony Weiner.  Anthony, like Stewart, had an older brother giving him the same number Two birth order. Weiner is now a Congressman from New York and the only politician to have received a campaign donation from Stewart.

Birth order is that unconscious unseen force that influences many aspects of our lives.

With its understanding we may see that some things don’t just happen by chance.

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Your Path Throughout Life  by Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst  or visit my website www.mybirthorder.com

Congressman Paul Ryan: Ready to Reply to State of the Union

                                                                        Paul Ryan

Rising Star

• One of the rising stars of the Republican Party is Paul Ryan from Wisconsin.He made an historical   television appearance when he and other Republicans were  invited to the White House for a discussion on the Health Care Bill.  Ryan came prepared with the 2000 plus pages of the bill and notes about many of it’s polices. The interesting exchange between himself and the President fell just slightly short of confrontational.

Birth Order

• If we look at his birth order we find he is a Four/Only Double birth order. Of his three older siblings the closest in age to him is five years older.  His father died when he was 16 years old and he was the last child living at home with his mother.  As he has said, “It was just the two of us, since my siblings were off in college.”  As the fourth born he is the true baby in the family but since he spent so many years home alone with his mother he added the power of the Only child to his birth order

Double Birth Order

• He realized early in life that you have to work for whatever you want.  As the baby in the family this is a very unusual position for the fourth born with no older siblings to help him.  All the added power and characteristics of the Only child has been a great benefit. He is well liked and that goes along with his fourth born characteristics but he can also be in your face having no fear of those older or those in power. This is what he gets from the Only side of his Double Birth Order.  Look for further confrontations as he can make those in power very uncomfortable.  He may be one of the younger congressmen but don’t be fooled by his age.  We should be seeing a lot more of him in the future.

Reply to the State of the Union

• As the Chairman of the House Budget committee he has been selected to respond to the President’s 2011 State of the Union address.  Don’t expect him go easy on  President Obama.  He will be in your face as a number Four but polite like an Only.

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Genius or Birth Order? Zuckerberg, Gates, and Buffett: Their Common Characteristics

These entrepreneurial billionaires span three generations. Warren Buffett, chairman of Berkshire Hathaway is 81, William Gates III founder of Microsoft is 56, and Mark Zuckerberg co-founder of Facebook is 26.

• Two made the cover of Time Magazine. Mark Zuckerberg in 2010, Bill Gates shared it with wife Melinda and musician Bono in 2005. Warren Buffet never made it to the cover but in 2006 was listed among Time’s 100 Most Influential People in the World

• Both Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates attended Harvard but never finished, they dropped out to start their companies. Warren Buffett did finish college and went on for an additional degree. Maybe he represents a different generation?

 They are all Billionaires but they share something else on a more personal level; something even they may not   

 know. Birth Order

Birth Order

             They all share the same Birth Order. They are all Second borns with older sisters.
             All their sisters are approximately two years older.  Because of this they share a
             number of second born traits and because of their male genders they had an easy
             time dethroning their sisters, functioning as First borns but keeping their Second born traits.

Starting Early

• Warren Buffet had a paper route early in his life and bought his first stock at the age of 11.  That five dollars of profit would set the stage for a life in the investment field.  Bill Gates was programming computers at the age of 11 when he was sent for counseling because of his independent streak, a true second born trait. Mark Zuckerberg’s first computer was a Quantex 486DX running Windows 3.1 and at age 12 he created a program to network the family computers.  The rest is history.

Don’t Tell Me What to Do

• Freedom, not power is what sets the Second born apart from the First born.  Their billions are used for their freedom not for its power. They don’t like to be told what to do and their billions buy them this freedom.

Competitive

• All show their competitive trait in their businesses, often putting in very long hours with an intensity that many could not sustain. On a more personal level we also see this trait. Mark Zuckerberg was a fencer in High school, Bill Gates was always playing competitive games with his two sisters and Warren Buffett plays bridge12 hrs per week. In 2006 he started the Buffett Cup for competition between 12 US players and 12 Europeans patterned after the Ryder Cup in golf. 

Management Style

• Their management styles show the mark of the Second Born.  Mark Zuckerberg doesn’t have an office but prefers the open office approach, no exercising of power here. Bill Gates’ employees are independent contractors and Warren Buffett prides himself in not getting in the way of the CEO’s of his companies.  He says he just leaves them alone; they do a better job without his interference.  This is what all three of them think everyone would like because that is what they want.   They are unaware it’s a birth order trait of Second borns.

Philanthropy

• All have pledged to give at least 50% of their wealth to charity.  Why did they all see this as an easy decision?  As Second borns they share similar views on life. People with the same birth order are so much alike that age is no barrier. After their deaths they have no use for their money….you might say they then have achieved their ultimate freedom.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         If you would like to learn more about Birth Order you can get my book  Life's Fingerprint How Birth Order Affects Your Path Throughout Life  by Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst or visit my website at www.mybirthorder.com

The Double Birth Order of Bing Crosby a Four/Two

It’s the holiday season and what a better life to look at than Bing Crosby’s.

He was the most popular crooner of his day and the classic “White Christmas”

is still heard every year. His last recording and his final TV Christmas was with

David Bowie.  His duet with Bowie of “Peace on Earth and The Little Drummer

Boy is listed as one of the 25 most memorable musical moments of the 20^th century.

Double Birth Orders

Many people get confused when a Double Birth order consists of two ordinal birth numbers and not an ordinal number combined with that of an Only. We also call this a Family within a Family.  The life of Bing Crosby should clear up any confusion. This is how we find this type of Double birth order.

  Siblings                                           Birth Orders

Larry         1895                                     1

Everett       1896                                     2

                               4 year gap                        This starts another family

Ted            1900                                    3/1

Bing           1903                                   4/2

Catherine    1904                                   5/3

Mary Rose 1906                                    6/4

                               7 year gap                        This starts another family

Bob            1913                                    0/7     (He would be a 7/0 if only a 4 yr gap)

Bing's 4/2 Double Birth Order

If we look at the characteristics of these two birth orders we can see them in his work and interests. His life shows what can happen when you combine the Two and Four birth orders.  The Two wants to control his space and its money that gives him control.  He is also competitive and can be athletic.  He will not be conventional in his thinking and can go where others don't feel comfortable. The Four can be a real charmer as the baby in the family and if work is fun than that is perfect for him.  Having a double birth order allows this person to switch back and forth between these traits; this can cause some confusion for those around him.

A look at his life’s accomplishments from his work that he seemed to do so easily.

1. As of 2000 he still held the number of most Number One hit records 38

 2. Successful in record sales, radio ratings and motion picture grosses.

3. Developed first commercial reel-to-reel tape recorder

4. In 1962 first person to win a Grammy Global Achievement Award

5. Won an Academy Award for Best Actor

6. Has three stars on the Hollywood Walk of Fame

7. Was fired from Paul Whiteman band for “bad” behavior

    (Maybe he didn’t want to be told what to do?)

8.  In tickets sold he is the third most popular actor of all time.

9. Walked away from the radio networks when they would not allow him to

    prerecord his shows on magnetic tape. Was settled out of court with him winning.

    (It is said this allowed him more time for golf)

10. Invested in the first frozen orange juice sold under the brand Minute Maid.

      (With this investment he found a loophole in the tax law so the IRS couldn’t

       tax him at 77%)(Number Two needs money for their independence)

11. Launched the tape recorder revolution in America with Ampex company

12. Financed the development of videotape.

13. Helped establish Del Mar race track in California. Sold his interest in 1946 for   

       almost half a million dollars.

His Athletic achievements and Fun

1.  Part owner of the Pittsburgh Pirates baseball team

2.  Member of the World Golf Hall of Fame.  Thought to be one of the
     people most responsible for popularizing the game

3.  Received the William D. Richardson Memorial Trophy for his
     contributions to the game of golf (1950)

4.  Started in 1937 the Crosby Clambake and now known as the
     A&T  Pebble Beach National Pro-Am

5.   He was a two handicap player who competed in both the British and
      U.S. Amateur championships.

6    One of only a few players to ever make a hole in one on the 16^th at
      Cypress Point

7.  Wife Kathryn Crosby said at a news conference after Crosby’s death,
     “I can’t think of any better way for a golfer who sings for a living to
      finish the round.

 8.  Died from a massive heart attack after a round of 18 holes of golf near
     Madrid Spain. He and his partner had just defeated their opponents.
     His last words were “That was a great game of golf, fellas”  He had been
     told by his doctor to limit his play to only 9 holes.

Do you know any 4/2 Double birth orders?  These two birth orders are very complementary to each other.  As you can see, it can make for an interesting life.

If you would like to learn more about Double Birth Orders you can get my book
Life's Fingerprint: How Birth Order Affects Your Path Throughout Life  by
Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst or visit our website  www.mybirthorder.com

  

President’s Obama and Clinton a study in Double Birth Order

On Friday December 10, 2010 we all were witness to a very unusual event,

Two Presidents having a news conference sharing the podium.  This joint conference in itself was not what most people noticed.  It was the current President letting a former President run the news conference and then excusing himself, saying his wife was waiting for him. This left Bill Clinton to continue with reporters for another 30 minutes.

Double Birth Orders

Double birth orders occur when there are at least 4 school years between adjacent siblings. The greater the number of years the more like an Only child you become and less like your number of birth.  The Only child can be the most adult like of the birth orders. At a 4 yr separation you are 50% an Only and 50% your number of birth.

One Only and Only One.

From the aspect of birth order this behavior between Clinton and Obama was not at all unusual.  The strongest birth order is always in charge and that was Bill Clinton. Bill has a Double birth order of an Only/One having a step brother Roger 10yrs younger giving Bill more Only power. Obama is a One/Only birth order being only 6years older than his half/sister.  To the outside observer this acquiescence of the podium seems odd but not odd at all from the perspective of Double Birth Order theory.

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Tom DeLay Texas ex-Congressman –The Stubborn #2

 

Tom Delay

Characteristics of the Second born  with older brother

Some of the traits of a second born are they desire to control their own space and

they do not want to be told what to do, by anyone! Usually a better athlete than the

firstborn and they are very competitive. When the first two children are boy the competition can
get very intense. They will try to dethrone the firstborn if they have a chance.  In this light let’s take a look at the life of former Congressman Tom DeLay.

Early Years

Born in Laredo, Texas April 8, 1947 his family moved to Venezuela when Tom was nine years old. His father was an oil –worker and wildcatter.  A tough guy and alcoholic he was tough on the family. When his dad caught him smoking at age 6 he made him smoke most of a carton of cigarettes.  When Tom didn’t get sick and kept smoking, he got a whipping. A second born will just not give in.  His older brother Ray is 3rys older, and has served time for a conviction for grand theft and is still having problems with the law. (Looks like Tom dethroned him.) Randy his younger brother is three years younger is a lawyer and lobbyist.  The youngest and number 4 his sister Tena a nurse.

In high school Tom played football on the offensive line and only weighted 140lbs. Bigger players underestimated him at their own peril as he was know for his fierce playing. He attended Baylor University for two years, majoring in pre-med but was asked not to return after his sophomore year due to several alcohol-related incidents.   He finished his education at the University of Houston.

Work Before Entering Congress

After college he began work for a pesticide manufacturer, then purchased a small exterminator business. This work was the source for his nickname, “The Exterminator.” This is where he first ran into Government regulations through the EPA.  The pesticide Mirex was outlawed, a very effective agent for fire ant control. He called the EPA, the “Gestapo of government.”  His fighting didn’t end here as he partnered with another exterminator company and a business dispute ended up in court. A number two just doesn’t give up easily.

Family Tragedy

In 1988 his father Charles Ray Delay was critically injured in a tram accident that he and his brother had built to descend the 200 ft bluff to Canyon Lake.  The brakes failed, it jumped the track, and Charles was thrown into a tree and died 27 days later. The family had to take him off  life support.  After the incident Tom cut off all communication with his brothers, sister and mother. What ever his reason, two’s find it very hard to change their minds once set.

Political Career

He started his political career as a state representative in 1979 and while sharing an apartment in Austin Texas he was known as a party guy and a lot of fun.  Still drinking he gave up alcohol in 1984 when running for congress.  It was also this time he dedicated himself to evangelical Christianity. In 1984 he was elected to the U.S. House of Representatives and became house Whip in 1995 and gained another nickname “The Hammer,” for his reputation for wreaking political vengeance on his opponents.

He resigned in 2006 after being indicted on charges of violating campaign finance laws. He was found guilty on money laundering and conspiracy, November 24, 2010, charges that may carry one to ninety-nine years in state prison. Sentencing will begin December 20, 2010.  Expect him to continue to fight. Number two’s don’t want to be told what to do even if they know they are wrong. Since leaving Congress he has co-authored a memoir, titled No Retreat, No Surrender: One American’s Fight.  A title describing a second born’s view of the world.

Dancing with the Stars

Some may find his participation in Dancing with the Stars out of character for even an ex-Congressman.  But he has a history of dancing from his High School days. When at Calallen High School in Corpus Christi, Texas he was the lead dancer in school productions. True to the athletic number two he continued to compete even with stress fractures in his feet, against doctor’s orders that he drop out of the competition.  Only stopping after the pain became too great.

Tom Delay could be a poster boy for the traits of the second born.  Expect him to appeal

the court decision. He won’t go down without a fight!

 

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How to Survive Your Family During the Holidays: Understand Birth Order

It’s that time of the year when families are getting together. For some, these holiday get-togethers can be fraught with difficult family dynamics. But why? It’s just family, right? One answer is that when families get together everyone takes a step back in time and the pecking order—birth order—comes back into play. No matter that Joann is now a successful investment banker in New York City—she is still the baby sister to her older siblings, and is still treated the same way as she was when growing up. Birth order shapes your path throughout life, and these traits don’t change when you leave the nest, get a job, and have a family of your own. And when lots of family members get together, the personality traits come into play.

To understand them, here’s a quick primer on birth order and a way to understand your family’s dynamics this holiday season:

The Only Child

This child will go one of two ways: they may love having everyone around, something they missed as a child, or they will like solitude during the holidays and prefer keeping things low key. This birth order will be the most adult of the group—the go-to person if problems occur. Charles Schulz is a good example of an only child—he had a fascination with family and children all his life, as evidenced by his “Peanuts” comic strip.

The Firstborn

Similar to the only child, the firstborn is at the top of the family pecking order. These are the people who want to give orders and be in charge. One can get a mental picture of the firstborn’s approach by just imagining Hillary Clinton and Julia Child in the same kitchen—both of these firstborns would want to be in charge. If you are working with firstborns for the holiday dinner, one approach to keep holiday harmony might be to make the firstborns of the family responsible for different aspects of the gathering.

The Second Born

Don’t tell a second born what to do! The second born may still be acting out their sibling rivalry with the firstborn. The second borns may want to take the competition outside for some touch football. If the weather isn’t cooperating, any game where they can compete will do! If the second born is in charge of dinner, you can bet it will be as perfect as possible—the second child often tries hard to unseat the older sibling. Second-born Martha Stewart, home and entertainment perfection guru, is a good example of a second-born child.

The Third Born

These are the masters of relationships and will be the observers of the family in action, taking everything in. They make it their job to keep peace and keep everyone on an even keel. Laughing on the outside, you can bet they are feeling everything on the inside and won’t let it show. The third born will know just which family members should sit together at the holiday table. Third-born Barbara Bush, wife of one president and mother of another, is the perfect example of the all-knowing, all-feeling third born who doesn’t let her tender side show.  She is great at picking up vibes from people and can easily figure them out. 

The Fourth Born

They are ready to have some fun! As the true babies in the family, everyone takes care of them and they can be the grease to keep the family having fun and keep things from getting too serious. The holiday party won’t be at their house unless someone else is in charge. They prefer to sit at the little kids’ table, where they are right at home. Fourth-born Dolly Parton exhibits the playfulness of this birth order.

And Beyond

If you are from a large family, birth order starts over at the top for the children following the fourth child of the family. If you are a fifth born, you share the firstborn traits. If you are a sixth born, you share the second-born traits, and so on. But often the birth order traits are softened in these family members.

Some Variables

Birth order characteristics are not black and white and they can be influenced by many things—sibling deaths, divorce, blended families, and lengthy spacing between children, to name a few. For example, “double birth” family members are children spaced four years apart or more from their closet sibling. For instance, a third (and last) child born five years after the second born of the family would carry a Three/Only birth order. Double birth order children carry both characteristics of their orders, and in many cases the blending magnifies characteristics. If a two is stubborn, then a Two/Only is an immovable object!

For some holiday entertainment, have your family play the sibling birth order game:

·         List all of the family members and their ages:

                Anna 41, John 38, Sue 37, Becky 30

·         Identify the number of years between each successive sibling:

                Anna 3yr John 1yr Sue 7yr Becky

·         Assign birth orders:  Anna: #1 John: #2 Sue: #3 Becky: #4/0

 (In this example, Becky has a double birth order because there are more than four years                                              

   between her and her closet sibling.)

If you have a large group, give a name tag to each person identifying their birth order. It’s a great way to get the holiday dinner conversations going! Bon Appétit!

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Who is Sarah Palin and Why is she so Darn Happy?

 

Sarah Palin

Order of Birth
It’s time we had a look at Sarah Palin from the perspective of Birth Order.
Sarah Louise Palin was the third child born into the Palin Family. Her brother
Chuck Jr. is the first born and only boy in the family. He now teaches school following
in the footsteps of his father who was both a science teacher and track coach. The second
born was Heather who is working in advertising. Sarah is next and last is Molly who
is a dental hygienist. All the children were less than 2 years apart.

Third Born Characteristics
As a third born Sarah shares many of the traits that make this birth order position so unique. This position does not get into the sibling rivalry that occurs between number one and number two. She is the peace maker in the family and has an instinctive ability to work with large groups of people on a personal level. She can grow up listening to a different drummer than the two older siblings. Seeing the big picture and the human condition is a high priority for this birth order. Nature, music, art and above all a deep religious faith are all part of the third born persona. Laughing on the outside but crying on the inside is the byline for the 3rd born. They display a protective shield to cover their real feelings. In her case it’s her smile and happy attitude which she uses to deflect any criticism. Her series on “Sarah Palin’s Alaska” is just where this number 3 would want prefer to be, deep in the wilds of her state, Alaska.

Why the Critics’ Don’t Get it
Not often does a third born show up in the political arena. They see life so differently from the first borns that crave power and authority over others. They don’t take things personally like the stubborn second borns that will not give in to the firstborns just on
principle. The third born really believes deep in their soul that they can change the world for the better no matter which side of the political spectrum they are on. Their stubborn attitude is not a personal thing. The media has very little experience with number threes and therefore does not understand their altruistic motives.

A Run for the Presidency?
Everyone is speculating if Sarah is going to make a run for President. After she and
John McCain III (a second born) ran in the last election as the maverick couple, everyone has been guessing. We have to go back to 1980 to find a lower birth order that won the presidency over a candidate with a higher birth order. It was the election of Ronald Reagan a second born, beating Jimmy Carter a firstborn. In 1984 Reagan did it again beating Walter Mondale an only/two double birth order. What makes Palin’s bid even more of a long shot is that she is a third born.

Third Born Presidents
Most of our population consists of only, firstborn and second borns. These top three birth orders have trouble trusting in a lower birth order like a number three unless they are special. We have had third born Presidents so it is not out of the question. Our last third born was Dwight Eisenhower the third of six boys. He always appeared upbeat, loved golf and was a painter, all third born traits. (It didn’t hurt that he also was a General during WWII). Our 25th President Theodore Roosevelt Jr., a third born with two older sisters was very much the conservationist and is given credit for establishing our National Park system. A third born we can’t forget was Thomas Jefferson, the oldest son with two older sisters. The author of the Declaration of Independence and our 3rd president. You can’t ignore his vision for the greater good of the people. He died a very poor man as money and power were not his goal. If the country really wants a visionary then they have it in Sarah Palin. It is up to the people to decide if they share her vision

For more information about Birth Orders get my book Life's Fingerprint: How Birth Order Affects
Your Path Throughout Life by Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst or visit my website www.mybirthorder.com

Royal Wedding for Prince William and Kate Middleton

Kate Middleton and Prince William

There was a little lighter news today with the announcement that Prince William
and Kate Middleton will marry next spring or summer. Their eight year relationship
started their first year in college. Prince William is the firstborn and the British press
use to refer to him and his brother Harry as the heir and the spare.Kate is also the
firstborn with a sister Pippa a few years younger and brother James four years
 younger than Pippa.

FIRSTBORNS - LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
Kate sounds like a very high achieving firstborn called an A-grade student and
excelled in both hockey and tennis. Being both the student and athlete didn’t give
 sister Pippa much of a chance to “dethrone” her. With these two firstborns getting
together you see one type of “Love at first sight” as they both share a number one
birth order.  They both see a mirror image of themselves. The problem here is that
they both will have a problem admitting to each other that they made a mistake.
They also may both want to lead so someone is going to find themselves number two.
This may be easier for the Royals as one can be King and the other Queen.

EQUALS
This marriage may be one of equals not like the marriage of Charles and Diana.
This was a difficult marriage that we all saw fall apart in the public media. Charles
a firstborn married Diana a 3/1 double birth order. She had two sisters more than
4 years older then herself and her younger brother. This created a family within a
family and another type of Double birth order. Diana had two very distinct
personalities both a sensitive caring number three and a want to be in charge number
one. If you look back on her life you will see these two sides to her personality.

SIBLINGS COME WITH THE BRIDE
The most interesting side of the William and Kate union will be her little brother
James. He carries the Double birth order of a Three/Only. I predict a lot of drama
here that the Royals will be trying to tone down and cover up. Already he is being
investigated by the Financial Services Authority into an investment company where
he works. His previous experience was running a cake making company.He now is
development manager for a company that buys rain forest land for clients who in return
receive carbon credits to trade on the global market. The future headlines will be
interesting for the future King of England’s brother-in–law.

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Charles Rangel his Double Birth Order and why he won’t Step Down

Serving his 20th term in the House of Representatives (was just reelected) he is the fourth-
longest serving Democrat in the House. Chairman of numerous powerful committees he
exerts a lot of power. He now faces 13 counts of charges that he violated House rules.

He dropped out of school in 1947, sold shoes and drifted about until he enlisted in
the U.S.Army. It was in the army, stationed in Korea, that he showed his inner strength.
During the battle of Kunu-ri despite shrapnel wounds, he led 40 of his comrades for
three days behind enemy lines rather than surrender. After the army he went back to school and in record time completed a four year degree. In 1960 he obtained his Law Degree from St. John’s University.

Just who is Charles B. Rangel? Born June 11th 1930 in New York City to Blanche Mary
Wharton, she eloped with his father a Puerto Rican immigrant who was working as a
handyman for the Wharton family. Three years later when she was 19 years old Charles
older brother Ralph was born. It was seven years later that Charles was born but by then
his eldest brother had been taken to live with relatives and was rarely around. Frances his
sister was born three years later but would also be raised by relatives. The probable
reason for the children leaving the house was that his father was abusive and left the
family when Charles was six years old. Charles was very close to his mother.

.Finding his “Real” birth order takes a little detective work. With a brother 7yrs older
Charles was second born but raised as an only child. This would make him a two/only
Double birth order. With the birth of his sister he became a 2/1 Double birth order as he
was then the oldest in this second family. His sister was three years younger. After she
left to live with relatives he was back to being a two/only for the rest of his formative
years. The two/only birth order wants to be in total control of his life and doesn’t want
anyone to tell him what to do. He will not give up easily and as a two/only he has a sense
that he is a Prince and is not subject to the rules. This is probably the reason that his
conduct has been under investigation for over two years. This ordeal is not easy for him
for this birth order does like others seeing the personal side of their life. Time will give
us the final answer but you can count on him to not go quietly.

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Order Affects Your Path Throughout Life by Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst or visit my website
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Congressman Paul Ryan

                                                       Congressman Paul Ryan

One of the rising stars of the Republican Party is Paul Ryan from Wisconsin.
He made an historical television appearance when he and other Republicans were invited
to the White House for a discussion on the Health Care Bill. Ryan came prepared
with the 2000 plus pages of the bill and notes about many of it’s polices. The interesting
exchange between himself and the President fell just slightly short of confrontation.
If we look at his birth order we find he is a Four/Only. The youngest, of his three
older siblings is five years older them himself. His father died when he was 16 years
old and he was the last one living at home with his mother. As he said, “It was just the
two of us, since my siblings were off in college.” As the fourth born he was the true
baby in the family but since he spent so many years home alone with his mother
he added the power of the Only child to his birth order.
He realized early in life that you have to work for whatever you want. As the baby in the
family this is a very unusual position for the fourth born with no older siblings to help
him. All the added power and characteristics of the Only child was a great benefit.
.He is well liked and that goes along with his fourth born characteristics but he can also
be in your face having no fear of those older or those in power. This is what he gets from
the Only side of his Double Birth Order. Look for further confrontations as he can make
those in power very uncomfortable. He may be one of the younger congressmen but
don’t be fooled by his age. We should be seeing a lot more of him in the future.

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How do you get a Double Birth Order?

It seems that I need to back up a little and explain just exactly how one gets a Double Birth order and just how it affects their birth order number.

If there are four years between siblings both above them and below them, these people
carry the Only birth order along with their number of birth. The addition of the Only
birth order adds power to their own birth order and increases all its characteristics.

If a First born thinks they are always right, then a One/Only really knows he is right and
doesn’t feel he has to defend his position as he knows he is right. If a second born does
not want to be told what to do, then a Two /Only is an immovable object. As we go down the birth order line the Only birth order characteristics are farther apart from that of
the lower birth order numbers.and the “two” personalities of the person become more
evident to those around them.

Why does this Double birth order phenomenon occur? This child is raised like an Only child when the four year separation occurs. They get a lot of parenting and gain lots
of self confidence, just like an Only child can be a miniature adult these Double birth orders also have little fear of adults and authority figures.

These are the typical four birth orders that can pick up the Only to make them a Double Birth Order.

1/0 4yr 2/0 4yr 3/0 4yr 4/0

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